DO YOU FEEL PRESSURE TO BE PERFECT? HOW MUCH OF IT IS TIED TO WHAT YOU SEE ONLINE?
The only time I really remember feeling pressured to be perfect is when I showed my father a Trigonometry test I had taken in the 10th grade. I had been working very hard in the class and achieved a score of 97%. I took the paper to my father (who had a PhD in Chemical Engineering) and he asked me, "What happened to the other 3 points?" OUCH!
And I put a lot of pressure on myself to be 'perfect', because I want the result of whatever I am working on to be my best work for the other person. But pressuring oneself to be perfect is not necessarily good either.
I know there are people out there who judge others by where they live, what kind of vehicle they drive, whether or not they shop off the rack, whether they are married or *gasp* divorced, too young or too old, Christian or Jew or Muslim or Buddhist.
In a sense, we all make judgments about people based on their looks, their skin color, whether or not they have a degree, where they work, if they work, what church they go to ... the list is endless. A lot of it is the result of ignorance, Yes, it is going to happen online.
Media in general puts a lot of pressure on people to appear (at least physically) perfect. Recently there was a buzz about someone Photoshopping Jennifer Lawrence to make her arms look thinner. Puh-leeze! Everyone wants to see young, thin, well-to-do people who have 'perfect' lives. But as anyone who has seen an episode of "The Real Housewives of (X)" can tell you: a) those housewives are not representative of the vast majority of housewives anywhere in the world, and b) rich, young, physically attractive people do not necessarily have happily-ever-after lives.
So, how to we affirm ourselves as "just fine, just the way we are, thank you very much"?
Talk to the Hand Defense - literally put up your hand and give a "stop" sign. You don't have time to listen to that kind of noise. This is a great defense against those who would stop you from getting the right things done by insisting that everything you do be done 'just right'.
Walk Away Defense - This defense is for when the battle to be perfect is just not worth it. Maybe you are in a toxic relationship, be it family, friend or love interest. Some insists you do things just so, or always their way, in order that you be 'worthy'. Walk away. Create distance.
Channel Changer Defense - You've probably heard the maxim that 'the best defense is a good offense'. Choose to take in information that is uplifting. Choose to consume things that energize you. Opt out of the mirage of perfection. Get the right things done.
What are your thoughts on the concept of perfection?