Mid-life mom, Colleen Gallagher, would do anything to protect her children from harm. When her daughter’s husband falls ill with ALS, Colleen rolls up her sleeves and moves in, juggling the multiple roles of grandma, cook, and caregiver, only to discover that even her superhuman efforts can’t fix what’s wrong.
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MY REVIEW
Hands up all those with children who would rather be sick themselves than have one of their kids come down with something. It's bad enough when it's just a cold or a 24-hour bug. When the illness is more serious, even life-threatening, the pain and stress is unimaginable.
The wear and tear on a soul does not lessen even if the person ailing is an adult family member (or friend).
Enter Colleen Callagher, a woman who single-handedly raised three children after her husband was killed rather early on. See Colleen go, as many grandmas do (if they are able), to help out at her daughter's house when the birth of her 2nd grandchild approaches. See Colleen learn that her son-in-law Tony has ALS (aka Lou Gehrig's), a terminal disease.
Goodness knows, it's hard to be polite and thoughtful when you are ill or under extreme stress. But Sandy (the daughter) and Tony ... how can I put this diplomatically? No, it can't be done. The farther along you go in the book, the worse their behavior and rudeness become. The first glaring incident is when Sandy is home from the hospital and Tony tells (not asks, tells) his parents to leave because they are keeping Sandy up. Again, yes, they are under stress, but so is everyone that loves them.
Sandy even starts pulling away from the marriage. She goes out more and more with friends and movie clubs and even starts wanting to keep company with a man who has been helping fix up the house. On the one hand, she does need a break now and again. All caregivers do - it is not a job for the faint of heart. But Sandy takes more and more time off for herself. while increasing her demands on family and friends who are ready and willing to step in to help out, and at the same time criticizing them. She goes so far as to call her mother and two other helpers "the three terrible substitutes" to her mother's face.
Montpelier Tomorrow was not an easy book to read. I've been known to read hours at a time, but could not with this book. The emotional toll is unbelievable. So I would read a chapter or two, then watch a British comedy, or play with the dogs, or chat with my husband about our days. Then I would go back and read some more.
Dealing with a chronic or terminal disease is not easy. The pain, heartbreak and stress of the situation is unrelenting and progressive. People outside the inner circle struggle with how to interact with the person who is ailing and/or the person's family. There are awkward social moments. I will hazard a guess that Montpelier Tomorrow is a fairly accurate view of the various issues involved, from the 'patient's' (sorry could not think of a more pc/appropriate word), the family's, and the family's circle of friends and acquaintances.
Therein, for me, lies the strength of this book. It is much 'heavier' than my usual reads. And it may never make it to the big screen with big name stars, a la Gone With the Wind. But it would make one heck of a Lifetime movie!
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MEET THE AUTHOR
A former carpenter and mother of five, Marylee MacDonald began writing when her last child left for college. Her fiction has won the Jeanne Leiby Chapbook Award, the Barry Hannah Prize, the Ron Rash Award, the Matt Clark Prize, and the ALR Fiction Award. Her novel, Montpelier Tomorrow, was a Finalist in the 2014 IPPY Awards and the Faulkner-Wisdom Prize. She is widely published in literary magazines such as American Literary Review, Bellevue Literary Review, Folio, Blue Moon Literary & Art Review, Broad River Review, Four Quarters, New Delta Review, North Atlantic Review, Raven Chronicles, Reunion: The Dallas Review, River Oak Review, Ruminate, StoryQuarterly, The Briar Cliff Review, and Yalobusha Review.
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Oh yes, I could certainly see this as a Lifetime movie!
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Thanks for the opportunity, Heather! Partnering with TLC has definitely enlarged my reading horizons!
DeleteThat does sound like a tough read and a really tough situation! I wish we were having more conversations about dealing with illness like this with spouses and parents and the incredible toll it takes on families. Maybe this book will be a step towards that!
ReplyDeleteThat's a great way to look at it, Lindsey! As I live nearly 1300 miles away, my brother had nearly total care of our mother for a couple of years. It basically broke him.
DeleteWow, the main character sounds like such a strong woman who is dealing with raising all those kids and looking after the one who falls ill. When there are women like that around, I can definitely admire them.
ReplyDeleteThat's super, Olivia-Savannah! These caretakers, male or female, deserve a lot of respect.
DeleteI can't even imagine what it would be like to be a care taker for an extended period of time. Definitely a heavy topic on many levels.
ReplyDeleteOne of my aunts had Alzheimer's, which of course, became progressively worse as the years wore on. My uncle remarried after a year - the loss of a life partner, the loss of companionship (which started years before my aunt actually passed) had taken a heavy toll on him. His oldest daughter never forgave him for marrying another woman after her mother (his wife) died. I don't know if she felt like it was a betrayal of her mother, or if she was worried about her inheritance. I say, shoot, if it made him happy, have at it! :)
DeleteI reviewed this one last week. I completely agree with you about Tony and Sandy. I understand they were under stress, and of course, I know Tony had to be depressed and angry. But I really don't know how Colleen stayed there and took it. And if I'd been his parents after being asked...no, TOLD...to leave...that would have been it. Because his mom talked a little loud??? Obviously these were rude people to begin with and the stress brought out the worst in them.
ReplyDeleteYeah, Kim, Colleen's tongue must have looked rough from all the biting on it that she had to do.
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